For as long as I can remember, (and not unlike most women), my hair has been a mirror of my life. Every stage, every transition, every joy and challenge seemed to show up in the way I wore my crown.
As a mama of six, pregnancy alone shifted my hair in ways I could never have anticipated. Add in the seasons of stress, creativity, and growth, and my hair became a living testimony of where I was in life.
I’ve done it all. Relaxed strands that promised sleekness but came with their own costs. Protective styles with weave and braids offered versatility, but sometimes tested my edges.
And wigs, oh, the wigs! They gave me a sense of ease and convenience when I needed it most.
Wrestling With Confidence and Comparison
There was a season where I struggled with traction alopecia. I wondered if my natural hair could ever thrive again. It felt like I was destined to cover it up forever.
I’d scroll and see Black women proudly rocking their natural hair in all its majestic variety- locs, afros, twists, and feel both admiration and hesitation. Could I do that too? Could I show up fully myself without hiding behind added strands?
The question lingered in my heart for years. But slowly, the answer became clear: YES. Not only could I embrace my natural hair, but I could also honor the roots that carried me here.
The Freedom of Two-Strand Twists
June 3rd, 2025, marked a turning point. I took off the wig, set aside the extensions, and twisted my natural hair into a simple two-strand twist. No extras, no additions. Just me.
In that moment, I felt free. Free from comparison. Free from the weight of other people’s expectations. Free to embrace this new chapter as my most authentic self.
My story isn’t just about hair. It’s about confidence, love, and freedom. About deciding that my crown is mine to define, and that every coil and strand tells a story of resilience and grace.
A Little Extra Care Goes a Long Way
Choosing to wear my natural hair doesn’t mean neglecting it. It means learning how to care for it in a way that nourishes and strengthens it. Some of new hair staples are Wells Oil Rosewater Mist Spray, and Locsanity Rosewater Peppermint spray. Both products are lightweight, hydrating, and leave my hair feeling refreshed without buildup.
I love using them to moisturize my hair and keep it looking healthy throughout the week.
Moreover, now that my loc journey is officially on, it’s even more true. Beyond just the moisture, there’s something deeply affirming about pausing to tend to my own hair. It’s no longer about covering or disguising, but about celebrating what’s mine.
More Than Just Hair
Hair may seem like something small, but for many of us, it carries deep meaning. Hair is identity, history, and self-expression. For me, moving from wigs to locs is about more than a hairstyle. It’s about walking in freedom, honoring the woman I’ve become, and choosing authenticity over approval.
Every time I look in the mirror, I’m reminded that I am enough. Not because of what I add, but because of who I already am.
Ready to Step Into Your Own Freedom?
If you’ve ever felt stuck between styles, uncertain about what works for you, or hesitant to embrace your natural beauty, let this be your reminder: you can do it. Your crown is yours, and you have every right to wear it with pride.
This journey, from hair to there, is about so much more than strands. It’s about confidence, care, and living authentically. And ultimately? It’s about the journey we take to ourselves.
Your Crown. Your Rules.
If you’re ready to take your own next step, start simple. Care for what’s already yours, nurture it with love (and maybe a little rosewater mist), and trust that the journey is worth it.
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